When I began writing about online culture, back in the late 1990s, misinformation was at a minimum and easy to identify, and hateful trolls were oh-so-quickly banned from online communities. Now, hate and misinformation rage online. Trolling, where people target others with hateful online messages in an effort purely to anger and intimidate, is common. The netiquette most of us followed in the 1990s seems long-abandoned.
I define incivility online as behavior meant to disrupt conversations and drive people off of a community for not having the same viewpoints as the disrupter. Rudeness can be in the eye of the beholder - I have seen people called rude if they say they don't like a restaurant everyone else loves, or if they challenge someone promoting false information about medicine or climate change, or if they express anger at a harmful act by a religious figure, and I've seen accusations of rudeness or someone being insulting used to shut down online disagreements. I have been the target of people want to say I'm rude and shut down the opinions I have that they don't like. By contrast, violations of community rules and insults based on a person's appearance or heritage, or deliberate spreading of misinformation, are much easier to define in much more concrete terms, beyond just incivility. Also easy to define are intimidation and threats.
Talking about online civility should not be about discouraging disagreements or debates. It should not be used to discourage questions or negative opinions. It also should not be about discouraging people from calling out racism, sexism, trolling, the promotion of false information and harassment. It should be, instead, talking about boundaries for disagreements or debates and encouraging fact-based discussions - and sometimes, just agreeing to disagree.
Can online civility be restored? Is it possible to challenge intimidation, harassment, misinformation and destructive speech in the strongest, most deliberate of terms without being accused of hate speech or even defamation yourself?
A study found that there is a positive effect from even a brief exposure to online civility: "contrary to intuition, according to which a quarrel is much more salient than a polite discussion, a simple lack of aggression in expressing a difference of opinions online acts as a powerful determinant of higher levels of trust towards other people." Civil online interaction "has a significant effect on social trust. This suggests that what is at stake in moderating online discussion is not simply the prevention of negative phenomena (hate speech, cyberbullying, digital harassment, etc.), but also the achievement of significant social benefits, most notably a measurable increase in trust and social capital that can, in turn, positively affect economic development." (from For a Civil Internet – How the tone of online conversations can build trust, April 4, 2019, by Fabio Sabatini and Tommaso Reggiani, posted to the LSE Impact of Social Sciences blog, part of the London School of Economics and Political Science).
Yes, it's just one study. More is needed, absolutely. And the reality is that there are people who love embracing incivility online. The reality is that there are people who aren't willing to just express a difference of opinion - they feel compelled to go beyond a blog that says, "I want my opinion expressed as well and, so, here are my disagreements with so-and-so in detail." Instead, they disparage someone's character, unleashing a barrage of tweets, memes, YouTube videos and more.
Promoting online civility is not the same as stifling disagreements. Consider this: in 2010, a website was created by a university student to study the effectiveness of asking online community members to agree to behavioral standards and allowing them to vote on the quality of each other’s contributions. Users who chose to participate in the “Red Room” were expected to follow the agreement, and those who commented in the “Green Room” had no such expectations. The student's 2012 study of the experience compared the behavior of participants in both rooms. "Results show that users will adhere to some expectations and will behave with civility when they have agreed to do so. The voting system was underutilized and did not appear to influence behavior. While discussions in the Red Room were polite and factbased (sic), discussions in the Green Room appeared to more meaningfully explore differences. Therefore, it might be advisable for website administrators to weigh the benefits of encouraging civility against the benefits of encouraging free expression." (from Promoting civility in online discussions : a study of the intelligent conversation forum, by Anita S. Crane, The University of Toledo).
It's hard to promote online civility when there are people dedicated to disrupting discussions and intimidating people - and let's acknowledge that men are far more likely to troll people online than women, and their targets are often women. That's something to be examined in and of itself...
If your nonprofit has an online community for your volunteers, or your company has an online community for clients/customers, have stated rules for participation, refer to them and enforce them. You should have an appointed facilitator and moderator who will enforce those rules, and staff in particular should know how to set and keep a certain tone.
On your community,
This is a curated list, not a comprehensive one.