This is an excerpt from a comment on a Quora post from last year, and I haven’t stopped thinking about it since I read it:

Honestly, volunteering was really bad for my mental health.

The thing was, the bosses all thought they were doing my a favour by letting me work with them. They appreciated their other volunteers but they didn’t really want a depressed and disabled person working with them. They didn’t see it as me giving up my time to support a charity I cared about – they saw it as them ‘finding me something to do’, that I needed this in order to fill my time, that they were kind to let me.

I didn’t need to fill my time. Filling my time has never been an issue for me. I just wanted to help others, to contribute to a cause I cared about…

I’m very shy and not a natural chatter. I also had limited life experiences so I had nothing to contribute to most of their conversations… I’d been there 4 months before I discovered there was a weekly trip to the pub which everyone else went to but which I had never been told about. I just happened to be within earshot when it was explained to someone else on his first day…

My mental health got worse and worse. I felt humiliated… I quit in the end because I couldn’t take it anymore… Volunteering makes me feel depressed, anxious, worthless and a total freak. I wouldn’t do it again. I will happily donate money or possessions but I don’t want to be made to feel that way ever again… This probably isn’t the sort of reply you’re looking for and I know that a lot of people find volunteering a really valuable and helpful experience but I thought maybe it was important to hear all points of view?

This should give pause to every person who works with volunteers, and every person who promotes volunteering. This is why I have so many cautions regarding people who tout volunteering as a great way for a person to improve their mental health issues – the reality is, volunteering, in the wrong circumstances, can make mental health issues WORSE.

I wrote about this before, back in 2019, quoting people who were posting online looking for volunteering and had wildly unrealistic expectations about how volunteering might help them, as well as about their abilities to step into a volunteering role, especially one abroad. And as you see at the end of this blog, I take protecting the mental health of volunteers very seriously. We need to not only make sure we aren’t being unrealistic about what volunteering can do positively for a volunteer’s mental health, but also make sure we are better ensuring volunteers’ mental and emotional safety while volunteering.

Let’s be realistic about volunteering and mental health. Otherwise, we’re going to turn more people off to volunteering – and that’s not helpful for anyone.

Also see:

• Detailed advice specifically for people seeking volunteering as a way to alleviate loneliness and mild depression.
• Do your volunteers feel psychologically safe?
• How are you supporting the mental health needs of your volunteers?
• Being emotionally ready to volunteer – or to continue volunteering.
• Dealing with customers with diminished mental capacities

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